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Bachelor Party (1984)
IMDB rating: 5.50
Plot: Tom Hanks is about to marry Tawny Kitaen. Her parents hate him. Her old boyfriend hates him. They all have money and he gets a cut of the crap games on the catholic school bus he drives. His friends decide to give him the bachelor party of all bachelor parties with an expensive hotel, booze, movies and hookers. As the players catch wind of the elements of the party, each adds a little monkey wrench so that one set of hookers ends up giving demos at the bride’s shower, the brides friends end up dressed as hookers in a room with a number of non English speaking Japanese business men, and so on as things get out of hand.
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Directors: Israel Neal
Actors: Hanks Tom,Zmed Adrian,Grizzard George,Prescott Robert,Tepper William,Diamond Barry,Grossman Gary,Dudikoff Michael,Bancroft Bradford,Comedy,
cant we just run off into the sunset?
we have been together 7years (engaged 1year) im turning 22 and he is turning 24 soon. the plan was to get married in 2years time from now, but we don’t want the big wedding (and cant afford one, well we could by then but don’t want to waste our hard earn cash on 1 day) we don’t really need bachelor/bachelorette parties and we don’t even care if family/friends are there because we don’t like lots of attention just on us anyway. but people seem to think all this is "odd" will it really matter if we just run off into the sunset and get married on a beautiful beach just me and my sweetheart?
would you be offended if your sister/brother/daughter/son whatever close to you did this?
John: we are both Graduating university this year! why do you think we are poor now and will have money in 2years when we have started our full time careers.
please serious answer only
.Do what works for you…you can always have a reception/party later to celebrate with family and friends. Don’t leave them totally out of it…but I don’t see that a big wedding and formal reception are necessary and they can be ridiculously expensive.
BabeHart | Feb 06, 2010
Its your life, you can do what you want. But… your friends and family might feel hurt that you didn’t include them in your wedding.
John | Feb 06, 2010
Because the sun is not accessible without leaving the earth’s atmosphere, and I presume that you haven’t bothered to get enough of an education to be considered for a job at McDonalds, much less NASA. Take some time, get your education.
John | Feb 06, 2010
Sure, no need to make a big thing out of it, we were married by a J.P. in his back yard then went camping for a week.The money we saved went to buy land where we still live nearly thirty years later.
goat roper | Feb 06, 2010
Offended isn’t the right word. Parents, especially, are often disappointed when their kids do this, because it’s one of the milestones they’ve looked forward to since you were born. So the question is really whether or not you can live with their disappointment.
If you can, then don’t let friends tell you what to do. It’s none of their business, because it’s between you and your fiance. However, don’t assume your only options are a beach wedding vs a huge bash. Many couples today are having very small weddings by renting a room in a restaurant, having a civil ceremony with an officiant, no attendants, and just immediate family invited. This can be pulled together very cheaply and might be a good compromise. Then head for the romantic beach.
But there’s nothing wrong with eloping, as long as you think it through and accept that your parents will probably be disappointed. You only get one shot at this.
Messykatt | Feb 06, 2010
No, lots of people are doing this. My husband and I took an Alaskan cruise for our honeymoon, and there was a couple on board who got married, just the two of them…no attendants, family or anything. It did look a little weird, with just the two of them all dressed up in the traditional wedding outfits, but sitting all by themselves having their wedding dinner. I thought it was kind of sad, but they seemed happy, so who am I to judge?
My niece married a guy whose mother is extremely controlling, so they decided to go to Jamaica with 3 of their best friends and got married on the beach. My sister in law was hurt, but she knew it was what her daughter wanted. They had a local reception about 6 months later.
As far as what others say, try to ignore them. They are just projecting their ideas and feelings onto you and your fiance. If you can honestly say that you will not look back and regret that you didn’t have a traditional ceremony and reception, then by all means have the intimate destination wedding of your dreams.
Elsie | Feb 06, 2010
I would be offended but more than that I would be upset that someone close to me didn’t want to share their big day with me.
Perhaps as a compromise you could just elope by yourselves together and when you return you could throw a wedding reception party, where all your friends and family can celebrate your marriage with you.
I think if you tell your family/friends that you want to get married alone without the fuss they may not understand at first, but they may be more understanding if you properly explain your reasons.
Jasmine | Feb 06, 2010
Just be sure this is really what you want. Too often, years later, women begin to lament that they didn’t choose the big white wedding.
Personally, I’d be sad if one of my family members, especially one of my children, got married and I couldn’t be there to witness it. It’s sort of a parent’s rite of passage. If possible, have the ceremony and a small cake and punch reception after and then hop the plane for a long honeymoon. That won’t cost much but will include hose you love.
weddingqueen | Feb 06, 2010
